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I’ll probably get laughed at for asking this but hoping I’m just being crazy. Happily married to my wife for 10 years. Out sex life has had its struggles. Mainly she has so many limits and inhibitions that basically all she likes is straight to intercourse penetration no receiving oral no foreplay of any kind just straight to stick it in and go at it hard. I’m the type that I really need to satisfy my partner and give her orgasms for me to be satisfied myself. It was a struggle for many years and it was destroying my self esteem when she forced me to be limited and not do anything where I could get her off and then she was always quiet during sex and didn’t seem into it and said she didn’t cum. She always said she would never ever fake it with me and as much as it hurt to feel like I was failing all the time at least I could trust that when it seemed like she was into it sometimes and said she did get off it was real so I could learn from what worked for her get better at satisfying her. Over the years like that I’ve paid attention to her body and responses and learned a few tricks and positions that seemed to be working to get her off much more while respecting her limits. She’s been saying she is so much more into it lately and getting off more even started doing some different positions on her own initiative like pulling her legs together that she keeps going to on her own and seems to like. Her orgasms haven’t seemed like over the top porn star acting like I’ve encountered in the past when a girl was faking thru seemed very real and very physical responses. I never suspected she would be faking. Then two weeks ago during a fight she said it was too much effort to get into sex with me even though we only do it once a week and that she just gives a performance. I took that to mean she’s been faking this whole time and I’m totally humiliated and shocked and crushed like I can’t even look at myself right now all my self esteem is destroyed thinking this whole time I thought I was satisfying her getting her off she was just acting wishing I’d just get it over with and get away from her. She said later that’s not what she meant that she just feels pressured to perform and get off so when she doesn’t feel like she can she rejects me. I actually totally get and respect that but I’m just having trouble getting the fear that she’s just faking it all the time out of my head now. During sex since then I got that anxiety in the back of my head like I am wondering if it’s real or fake having a panic attack that I gotta do something different or better even though she says she doesn’t want anything except penetration. It’s totally messing with me afraid it’s going to give me the Yips. Am I being crazy. I mean if she was faking it why would she have been so quiet and told me she wasn’t cumming all those years wouldn’t she have been faking it more back then. What am I supposed to do if what she is allowing me to do is not enough to get her off but she won’t let me do anything more. How can I live with myself knowing I can never give my wife an orgasm ever again and every time she seems to be enjoying herself I’ll know it’s all an act. Just can’t believe it don’t want to believe it praying I’m wrong.

So about a month ago, I noticed a massive spike in my sex drive (it had been rising for about 6 months and I hadn’t noticed), which I believe is related to the exercise I get at my job.My wife had a serious talk with me and said that sex was the only thing on my mind and my behaviour was inappropriate. I took this on board and have dialled it back 90%. What is confusing me now, is that even when we are completely alone like a few hours ago tonight, I was happily being a little playful with her, and she again said it was the only thing on my mind. So I stopped. Sat back properly on the couch and left it alone.A couple of minutes later she was flashing me her boobs which led to a lot of fun xD After we were done, I have recently become quite touchy feely, and she just seemed to have total disinterest in that and will do almost anything to not engage with me in that time period (playing with her phone, spending lots of time in the bathroom etc). I’m struggling to understand what’s happening here.Am I being teased, or did she only initiate because she thought she made me sad/mad (which she didn’t, hurt my feelings a little but not sad or mad for sure). I’m sure this probably sounds like a really pointless question, but I am genuinely concerned that my wife is using sex as a ‘cheer up’ mechanic rather than something she wants or likes.

No long after my wife Jenny had fucked her first huge dildo and experienced big cock sex  she informed me that she had  changed her mind, she wanted to fuck the real thing. She was eager to try a big dick, the sooner the better!  I reminded her that she said she didn't want sex with another man to which she replied " that was before I fucked a big cock, fake but big, now its something I really want to try! I said once you experience a big cock regular dicks won't be as satisfying for you. She said she figured as much, but its what she wanted,  She said I think I'd  really enjoy fucking a big  thick cock, just thinking about it gets me hot and horny. I'm ready to give it a try! Jen was a dam good looking woman, 5'9" tall, 117 lbs,  36dd, red hair down past her shoulders, A face that was both beautiful and sensuous. A wet dream but real.  Definitely boner material.  My friend Mike has an extremely huge cock and he is dam proud of it, he's always ready to use it. Knowing this is what Jen wanted I asked her if she is ready to fuck a cock and would be willing to fuck my buddy Mike. She asked why Mike, what makes him so special? I informed her that he was around 6' tall, very athletic, good looking, fun personality, and had the biggest cock I've ever seen on a man. This instantly got her attention and she said I'm hot for a big cock, bring him on. So I set up a dinner and drinks night out for the three of us. When the night arrived I told Jenny to dress slutty, no underwear, and not to be shy. Mike wasn't shy in the least and if I tell you to do something do it! She agreed to follow my lead. She was very excited and nervous but looking forward to the opportunity to fuck Mike's big cock. The anticipation was driving her crazy. We meet at a close by pub, had a light dinner and several drinks. I suggested we return to our house for more drinks and socializing to which everyone agreed, I could see Jenny had caught Mike's attention and he was eager to get to closer to her. I had informed Mike earlier that Jen was horny and wanted to fuck him, that  i was fine with it as long as i could watch, he said that was not a problem,  he was looking forward to the opportunity to fuck my wife. After we arrived home I had Jen get us more drinks, as she entered the room I asked Mike what he thought about Jen. He stated the she was smoken hot. He would love to stick his cock in her, Jen heard this and giggled, she responded that she wanted his cock in her too, then she looked at me and asked " do you want Mikes cock in me" and I said absolutely! Jen said then its settled, Mike your cock is going in me !! I told Jenny to remove her top which she did without hesitation exposing her big firm breast, next I walked over to Jen and started to suck on one of her tits, I told Mike she's got another one! He joined us and started sucking on the other one. Jen was really aroused, I told her to drop her skirt and she immediately did so. She reached down into Mikes pants and felt his growing cock rising up. She got wide eyed and announced that his cock was fucking huge!!! I asked her isn't that what you wanted. She replied that's exactly what she wanted. She couldn't wait to feel it inside her.  She then dropped to her knees and removed his pants fully exposing his huge erect cock, she went right to work on his cock, kissing and sucking his member. I backed off to watch. She tried but couldn't get all of it in her mouth it was so big.  Soon after Mike sat her on a kitchen chair and spread her legs apart exposing her shaved wet pussy, he vigorously began to work her clit with his tongue and fingered her pussy. Jen soon experienced a big climax, she was really hot and horny, she told Mike she wanted his big cock inside her now!!. Mike stood up and rubbed his cock against her pussy getting it wet and exciting Jen  even more, preparing herself for penetration Jen spread her legs wide and eagerly awaited his cock saying  i want it, fuck me. Mike eased his cock in slowly allowing Jen to adjust to his girth, His cock was 11" long and 3" thick. Jen moaned loudly, she was super horny,  wet with anticipation and desire which helped facilitated his going deeper without much resistance, Jen said oh hell yes, give it all to me, soon he had most of it in when Jen exploded in a massive climax, telling Mike his cock felt fucking great,  Mike started to increase his pace and depth filling Jens pussy to the max. She came again, shouting fuck me, yes, yes,  you're  stretching my pussy feels so good, she soon had another big climax, Jen was in a place she had never been before, multiple climaxes, the sensations, the excitement, the sight of that huge cock going in her, the satisfaction of a fully stuffed pussy was driving her to new sexual heights. Now she was fucking Mike just as hard as he was fucking her and was very vocal about how good it felt. This went on for quite awhile then Mike announced that he was cuming.  And he did, he filled Jens pussy with his cum, she climaxed to his climax. After a couple of minutes Mike pulled his cock out and Jen grinned holding her legs open for us to see, there was a huge hole where Mikes cock had been, semen started to run out of her pussy. It was hot as hell to see her like that!  Still smiling she said it was better than she had ever imagined, she exclaimed her pussy has never felt so completely stuffed full while semen continued to drain out of her. She told both Mike and me that Mike was going to fuck her again soon and I should video it. She and Mike went off to shower while I fixed myself a drink. When they returned Mike got dressed while Jen didn't, she walked him to the door not caring if anyone saw her. Kissed him good by and sat down next to me. She stated it was the best sex she's ever had and she wanted more. She absolutely love the full feeling she got from his big cock fucking her. She kissed me passionately and thanked me several times over for the exceptional evening, she said she's never felt so satisfied, it was everything she had hoped for and more. So now she's eager for me to find her more big cocks to fuck, she said she wants to try some BBC.  So the adventure begins. I've never seen my wife happier, hard to believe she originally rejected the idea of fucking another man. The times they are a changing. •