So about a month ago, I noticed a massive spike in my sex drive (it had been rising for about 6 months and I hadn’t noticed), which I believe is related to the exercise I get at my job.My wife had a serious talk with me and said that sex was the only thing on my mind and my behaviour was inappropriate. I took this on board and have dialled it back 90%.

What is confusing me now, is that even when we are completely alone like a few hours ago tonight, I was happily being a little playful with her, and she again said it was the only thing on my mind. So I stopped. Sat back properly on the couch and left it alone.A couple of minutes later she was flashing me her boobs which led to a lot of fun xD

After we were done, I have recently become quite touchy feely, and she just seemed to have total disinterest in that and will do almost anything to not engage with me in that time period (playing with her phone, spending lots of time in the bathroom etc).

I’m struggling to understand what’s happening here.Am I being teased, or did she only initiate because she thought she made me sad/mad (which she didn’t, hurt my feelings a little but not sad or mad for sure).

I’m sure this probably sounds like a really pointless question, but I am genuinely concerned that my wife is using sex as a ‘cheer up’ mechanic rather than something she wants or likes.